The call came in from a woman who adopted an approximately 1 year old Shih Tzu. She and her hubby already had another Shih Tzu that they purchased and trained as a puppy and now they wanted their newest family member to have his education as well – great! I described my group class and curriculum and informed them that I did still have room in the weekend class they wanted to join. Knowing that some folks have concerns, however unfounded, about Pitbulls, I “cautioned” them that the class already had a couple of larger dogs in it, specifically a couple of bully mixes. Fortunately, they were not at all bothered by this, in fact, they felt it was good to have a mix of breeds/sizes in a class. It came out that they had attended a group class with their puppy that included large and small dogs and they had a wonderful experience. I, of course, asked them why they didn’t return to where they had such a great experience and was informed that the training center had moved farther East, making the trip to and from much too long. Well, that worked out nicely for me - yay! The woman thanked me for my time and said she needed to speak with her hubby and would get back to me.
A few days later the woman called back to tell me they were very interested in the class (awesome) and she asked how large my group classes were. I informed her that I keep my classes small – no more than 6 and 8, only if I have an assistant. I explained that in a larger class it would be impossible to give everyone some personalized attention and larger classes can easily become out-of-hand with barking and other issues. (lol, another blog for another day – some of my group classes “gone wild”) She promptly disagreed with me, saying in the classes she attended, there were 10 and 12 dogs and it was fabulous experience. I asked how many trainers ran the class or if the trainer had any assistants and she told me no, just him. Rather than argue with her that a 10 to 1 ratio is not the best idea and that she may have gotten “lucky” with the class she was in, I simply said, “He must have been a wonderful trainer” and let it go at that. At this point I informed her that the class was filling quickly and that if she wanted to take the class, she needed to send in the registration and deposit. She said she would.
Another few days passed and the woman calls me yet again. She apologized for not sending in the registration right away but was putting it in the mail today with a deposit check. (Yes, I still have old-fashioned mail-in registration forms. I know, I know, I need to update my website for online registrations. Hey, don’t bug me, I’ve been busy!) She just wanted to double-check the address and she wanted to know what she would need for class. I informed her that as soon as I received the registration, I would email her a confirmation along with the class info email - “Group Class, What to Expect & What to Bring.” To which she replied, “Great, I’ll be looking forward to it. But, I guess I’ll need a training collar, right?”
At this point, I go thru a series of ritualized aggression moves. (yes, I definitely empathize with dogs a bit too much. I am the very opposite of anthropomorphizing) I freeze up, I begin to speak very softly and slowly and (thank dog she couldn’t see me!) my lip began to curl into a snarl. I very quietly asked, “What do you mean by a training collar?” As many of us trainers know, “training collar” is a euphemism for “choke chain” but I couldn’t be sure what she meant, hence the question. She hesitated and said, “You know, a training collar.” So now I’m pretty sure she thinks I’m an idiot of a trainer to not know what a training collar is so I said, “Well there are various types of ‘training collars’, do you mean a choke chain, a prong collar or an electronic collar?” She said, “Oh no, not a prong or shock collar, I would never do that to my dog. But I was told that calling it a choke chain is inaccurate because that is not the purpose of the collar, it just gets the dog’s attention.” (Really? Well, I guess it is at least in part true. Put a choke chain on me… you’ll have my undivided attention, that’s for sure. Ahhh, but take it off and I will not only ignore you, I’ll run like the wind away from you.) I said, “I don’t use those collars at all. My method is to get the dog’s attention through motivation. I prefer class participants to use a regular flat-buckle collar or, even better, a harness.” To which she replied, “Alrighty then. Thank you, goodbye.” There was a definite tone to that ‘alrighty then’, a mix of condescending sarcasm blended with ‘I’m humoring you.’
Another few days elapsed and no registration showed up so I called her to check in to see if she had sent it. She informed me that they had changed their minds. Since they had such a good experience the first time, they decided to make the trip to the other training center. I wished her luck and success and hung up feeling so depressed.
I couldn’t figure what went wrong. It certainly seemed to coincide with the “training collar” discussion. I was very careful to not say anything negative about her having used one before. I just told her that I don’t use them and that I have a different method. We had talked about positive reinforcement and rewards-based training in a previous conversation and she seemed to be on board with it. So what the $@%& happened?! My brain can’t wrap itself around the possibility that someone would object to NOT using a choke chain. I certainly can’t get my head or heart around putting any dog on a choke chain but I do ‘get’ how folks with large or strong dogs THINK they need one. But, seriously, a choke chain on a Shih Tzu?
Is that why she didn’t join my class? Because I wouldn’t let her put a choke chain on her 12-pound Shih Tzu? It certainly seemed that way to me but I’ll never know for sure. It still bugs the you-know-what out of me. I sincerely hope that Shih Tzu is none the worse for wear. As for my class – it was a great group and they all graduated with flying colors last month. And the strong Pitbull with the petite human, he wears a harness, he doesn’t pull and he can’t take his eyes off his human. I’d say she earned his attention, not to mention his willingness to comply, because he thinks the sun rises and sets on her and that’s a beautiful thing to see.
Chuck the ChokePass up the Prong
Skip the Shock
MOTIVATE instead of Dictate!
Happy Tails J